AND Nigerian lawyerr sparked reactions online after sharing her thoughts on the idea of equal contribution between partners in marriage.
The lawyer, identified as Stella Justice Nnennaya on Facebook, claims she succeeded marriages they are not built on strict calculations of who gives more at any given time.
“Some days one person carries more”
In her post, she explained that marriage comes with different seasons and circumstances, making it unrealistic for couples to contribute equally all the time.
According to her, there will be times when one partner may need to shoulder more responsibilities due to health, work, pregnancy, emotional stress or other challenges.
Marriage should not seem transactional
She emphasized that constantly measuring effort and contribution can make a marriage more like a business deal than a home.
The lawyer encouraged couples to support each other during difficult times rather than insisting on fixed expectations.
In her words:
“Marriage is NOT 50-50.
Some days the husband will give 80 and the wife 20.
On other days, the wife will give 90 and the husband 10.
There will be times when we are sick, unemployed, pregnant, emotionally drained, or simply exhausted.
Then the other carries more.
If you both keep shouting, ‘I did my 50%, do yours,’ your marriage will become a business partnership instead of a home.
A successful marriage is not an equal contribution every day.
It’s about two people who keep on giving, even when life doesn’t give equally.
Do you agree that marriage is never really 50-50?
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