“I changed my way of thinking” — Nigerian man reveals why he married his wife instead of the woman he loved the most

AND man has sparked conversation online after he shared the unexpected reason he decided to marry his wife over another woman he said he loved very much while they were dating.

The man explained that during the early stages of his relationship, he was involved with three different women at the same time.

According to him, the woman who eventually became his wife was not his preferred choice at the time.

His account has since sparked reactions from social media users, with many discussing the role of support, loyalty and compatibility in relationships.

Recounting his experience, the man revealed that his wife ranked lowest among the three women he dated.

“When I was dating my wife, there were two other girls I was also dating at the same time. Among the three, my wife was the least. I didn’t care about my wife at all, she was one of the other two girls I loved so much. So one day I had a very serious problem and asked that girl for 5 thousand. This girl is a taboo for me for a woman to give a man money.”

The decision that changed everything

The man went on to explain how other women reacted when he reached out for help.

“The other girl as I call her won’t even let me talk before she hangs up. So I call this girl here, and she gives me 10 thousand. Changing my way of thinking.”

Reflecting on his experience, he shared his thoughts on what many men value in long-term relationships.

“All these girls, if all you can offer a man is your body, they’ll sleep with you until you’re 40 and they won’t marry you.”

The man’s story caused mixed reactions on the Internet. While some social media users agreed that support during difficult times can influence relationship decisions, others argued that marriage choices should be based on a wider range of factors beyond a single experience.

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“When I was dating this wife of mine, there were two other girls I was also dating at the same time. Among the three, my wife was the least. I didn’t care about my wife at all, it was one of the other two girls I loved so much,” the Nigerian explains why he ended up… pic.twitter.com/caShix9ZUF

— Aku N’esi Obi Ike (I) (@Kasieobi_1) June 13, 2026