“I work every day to make ends meet, do I still have to cook and clean?” — The man’s comment sparked a debate on the Internet

AND man shared how a discussion about shared household responsibilities during a church service sparked a tense exchange between a pastor and a married worshiper in Abuja earlier this year, drawing renewed attention to gender roles in modern marriages.

The incident occurred during a sermon focused on partners supporting each other in household chores.

According to the report, the pastor encouraged married couples to see housework as a shared responsibility, especially when both spouses are employed outside the home.

Question from the benches

The man said that a married believer disputed the message from his place.

“The man stood up and said: ‘But pastor, I go to work every day to feed my family. How do you think I’m still cooking and cleaning?’“, he said, noting that the question immediately attracted the attention of the entire church hall.

The exchange did not end there. “The pastor calmly asked him: ‘Does your wife go to work?’ and the man answered that,“, the narrator added, explaining that the answer prompted a murmur among the faithful as the discussion moved on.

A broader conversation about marital roles

The pastor used the moment to emphasize the balance in marriage, stressing that a paid job does not do that exempt any partner from the domestic contribution.

The narrator said the message resonated with some worshipers, while others seemed uncomfortable with the implication.

Debates about domestic work have already stirred public discourse. In 2022, a viral conversation on social media about whether working Nigerian wives should continue to bear primary responsibility for household chores is sharply divisive, reflecting changing economic realities and cultural expectations.

Public reactions to the church incident have been mixed, with some Nigerians applauding the call for collective responsibility, while others argue that traditional role definitions should remain intact.

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